The Caller: June

Taking a stand and arguing

Sat, 28 Jun 2008 23:54:00 GMT

I'm sealing June with a conscious realization.

I am always taking a stand...always sharp in delivering a clear opinion about Issues especially basic ones.

But, I am done arguing!

I mean really putting my heart and nerves into an argument and a3aly daghty oo at7eme2!

No more of those...I've quit this month and I'm treating this as important as quiting smoking.

Reason:

No one gives your words a second of thought...people treat an opinion as if their lives depend on it and the whole thing turn into a mud fight!
Either ways...I benchmark if i have a point...they don't have to admit it but i do.
I can give my blood pressure the simplest treatment ever!

Now a good post needs a good example and I'm not gonna give you one...no, i feel extra generous today...I'm gonna give TWO live recent excerpts of two illogical cut in half arguments:

One

a long time ex tried to hit on me...i declined nicely as i care for him...he insists...i have to shut all channels...weeks later i discover that he's engaged to be married while he tried to hit on me...i get mad at him for being such a jerk...he argues my logic...i quit!

Two

a friend of mine whom i confide in - and that's soooooooooo rare- goes on and blabbers a private conversation to a third party...i get mad at the friend but his argument was: i didn't say ....... that would've been so much serious than what i said....i argue the principle itself and he keeps repeating that it wasn't the more serious topic...i quit!

When people can't get simple basic rules like those two points...how can i keep arguing and get mad till i get a stroke from such stupidity...I have kids you know i gotta take care of myself.

Khalas...7aramt...no more arguing...I'll take the stand and shut the freakin' door.

and with that realization...i seal June with a kiss :)

About Experience and such...

Thu, 26 Jun 2008 12:59:00 GMT

We've been discussing second marriages and its related aspects for the past two days at Insomniac blog...and let me tell you it was one of the most interesting discussions ever because no one - kama heya al3ada - is cheering in favor of a stereotypical idea over and over again...different people with different views...actually Mature ones regardless of my take on it.

The most interesting part was what Inso mentioned: each is scared by experience therefore he/she talks!

What is key in my opinion is that Human ( mental, emotional and all ) realization really starts to break the bubble and develops when we start to stop consuming our spirits in wallowing over previous scars...when we start to generalize and look deeper into life facts and just understand it.

Personal experience COUNTS of course...and creates a mind set that most likely is bound to throw its shadows over every incidents that relates to ones bad/good experience.

BUT, it would forever make us scared to move into a relative experience...it would forever make our view so narrow and limited and most importantly it would forever make us less understanding of the marvelous variety of human knowledge.

I believe it's disrespectful for a human to poke the eye of another human if he's different...i would only point finger at someone who i have the right to judge and that is whoever would intersect my life with his behaviour and directly harm me...otherwise i have no right to judge anyone simply because...no one has the right to judge me.

I will judge a cheating husband for scaring me because what he did is by all means wrong...but i won't judge a husband for marrying another woman because - in my beliefs- that's not wrong...my reaction would be leaving him if it hurts me cause Allah gave me that right.

if i flip the coin, i would leave a husband if i no longer see him as a spouse....he doesn't have the right to judge me cause that's my right but he has the right to if i cheated on him.

men and women are EQUAL when it comes to rights and obligations...i will see it that way and no other way.

Women think they are mistreated cause men seem to have more rights like polygamy and stuff...well, wrong conception cause women have the right to walk away when ever she feels that she has to.

7ad 7ay2oly how hard it is for a woman to be divorced...I'll say, it's hard cause WE made it that way with our own hands over the years....when women settled for miserable marriages cause they let people scare them from the society's look at the divorcee...when we let fear paralyzes us...we help injustice rule and become the norm.

My experience is the bitterest ever...yet, i understand the nature of women, men and life...pick what suits me and shove what hurts me and i try not to let a concept rest as a brick in my mind!

Allah ye3afy elgamee3.

have a good day.

Tender June

Sun, 22 Jun 2008 22:59:00 GMT

I think I'm gonna remember June as a month i like. I never had a favorite month...I've always known i loved winter only because i hate the summer heat...but i never had a particular month to love.

June...more professional...more busy...more focused.

June...more scheduled kids' Quality time...more kids' organized activities...more content.

June...I know how to shut my mind down business wise and enjoy a full weekend without even remembering work.

June...Trials...satisfying wins and fails!

June...I tested the other side of life...didn't do much for me...chose my own side!

June...Tan...Water...Music...Having fun...Quietness.

June...I sleep.

June...I'm back on track with my healthy life style and i feel great.

June...I realize the concept of closure...speaking my mind...claiming my rights and i practice it and for the first time in my life, I don't give a damn about what people think...I'm indulging my openness more.

June...I have a target.

June...I'm waiting for Ramadan :)

June...won't be dragged to silliness like the post continuous hijacker...stolen ideas...stolen projects and efforts...not my issue right now.

June...I don't want to congratulate YOU but i wish you all the best...Couldn't wish anyone but the best even if i tried to...but then again, you've been such a Jerk.

So - you know who you are- keep your distance and don't provoke me to be mean!

June...has been tender.

Al7amdlelah